Corner of the Room

Responsibility

Now...when I say the word responsibility I'm not referring to paying bills, doing laundry or cleaning your house.  These activities are day to day no brainers that most people navigate without really putting to much thought into the process.  And, just for fairness, there are people who have certain debilitating conditions that enable them from performing these day to day tasks and need medical help in order to get them back on track. That's a whole other post and not what this one is about.  No, the kind of responsibility I'm speaking of is taking responsibility for making positive changes in your life. A psychologist and friend of mine once said that individuals who were raised without the proper tools to deal with life's ever changing structure will always speak two languages.  That is if they choose to learn to navigate life from a healthier place then they were given growing up.  The new language is based in truth, love, and compassion first and foremost for yourself because without this self awareness you can not possibly bestow these gifts on others.  The problem though with these individuals who were given unhealthy guidelines is their resistance to change.  They've spoken this unhealthy language for so long that they don't realize that's the key factor reeking havoc in all areas of their life.  And, when they find a bold moment in themselves and make an attempt at speaking this healthier language they most often feel anxiety which is quickly interpreted as being on the wrong track or they are quickly cast down by the very people who taught them the unhealthy language.  It's truly up each person wanting to make that leap to start out with boundaries for the nay saying individuals.  Most of the nay sayers mean well but if they too are resistant to change then they are really not going to receive your efforts.  You've heard the old saying "misery loves company" and people who are miserable will sometimes, unconsciously, try everything to keep you just as miserable as them or keep getting you to buy into their warped belief system.  So start out by telling them your intention to change.  You might even, uncomfortably, have to tell them not to ask too many questions but that you are making a conscious effort to operate from a healthier place and will have to remove yourself from any conversation that is not inline with your new way of doing life. Tough love is what it's called and too many adults these days are having to make a stand for better communication in all areas of their life.

Working on my blogs today...I have several...I know it seems silly but sometimes a girls got a lot to say that just can't be confined in one category...:)

Perception

Perception is a very powerful concept.  Everyone perceives information on a daily basis but how they perceive that information is what's interesting and what is the basis for this post.  Everyday we are bombarded with information.  That information leads to choices.  Choices are made based on the perception of information received.  See my point.  An endless cycle of daily mind somersaults.  But here's where it gets interesting. Not everyone perceives information the same way.  Therefore, each persons choices made off of how they perceive said information is different.  And it's this difference in views that creates a communication breakdown/barrier among individuals.  OR...it can stimulate active change.  I believe as long as people communicate clearly their intentions and goals then everyone's perception is tied to nearly the same outcome.  Without this clarification, there can be no constructive resolution.  So the next time you find yourself faced with an seemingly unequal perception of information...stop, ask questions, make sure everyone is on the same page, and then react.

Disappointment

The wikipedia definition for Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations to manifest.  This word and definition resonate with me as I am feeling quite a bit of this lately. So, I thought it might be a good topic to write about. 

Everyone is different, I'm learning, in what triggers feelings of disappointment and how they choose to deal and/or resolve this sometimes debilitating emotion.  I myself try to recognize when a situation leaves me disappointed, encompass how it makes me feel, see it for what it is and release it. Sounds much easier to do than the actual art of finding that healthy balance.  But, you have to start somewhere.  I believe that those who have high expectations in life and from others stand to be disappointed often.  Not all individuals operate from this level nor can most attain it.  So releasing for these people is quite arduous. One might think that surrounding yourself with like minded people would be a possible solution but that would eliminate all means of finding a happy medium. So the bottom line is to live life with a "go with the flow" attitude and have no preconceived expectations in hopes of staving off any unwanted discomforting emotions.

Mind Chatter

These two words are the bane of my existence.  And for those individuals who know me well get to fully experience the art of what I call "mind dumping".  The constant writing on anything and everything in order to purge the brain for more chatter.  Sometimes this chatter is very productive.  For instance, when it falls in line with work related brain storming.  But other times, it creates some of the most outlandish stories.  I guess you could call this a defense mechanism but when one is faced with information deprivation the brain has a knack for filling in the blanks.  No matter how absurd the story appears.  I probably have some friends reading this and saying...uhhhh...yeah.  I've been told many times to channel these stories and write a book, screenplay you name it.  But, only a select few are privy to these mind chatter stories.  The rest of you will just have to wait for the book.